Fashion for Minimalists: 10 Rules

I’ve always been intrigued by fashion, and how some people manage to look so put together, all the time.  I don’t want to say that I was ever too poor to have a cute outfit, but as an adult, I feel like I’m just figuring out how to dress myself.

The more I’m inundated with impeccably dressed people, in their pencil skirts and tight blouses, outfits coordinated with matching shoes and handbag, I feel insecure.  I feel sloppy, messy and uncoordinated. It’s not that I have bad taste…or maybe I do. I went through this phase where I liked ugly stuff just because it was different. I adopted this ugly-as-cute attitude. And now, I just can’t look put together.

Coming up through college I had people tell me I need to dress a certain way. I bought the different colored New Balances because some guy said I should. When I arrived at college I had these giant hoops that I was content to wear every day until he told me I should wear different ones.  Thus I succumbed to peer pressure because I wanted to be liked and look more glamorous.  I wasted my money on these cheap but costume-y earrings from the vendor who frequented our campus. My style then became an amalgamation of what other people thought I should look like.

Walking around this ritzy private college, with their 40 thousand dollar palm trees (it was a running joke that they spent as much on those trees as we did on tuition, room and board) I admired the style of the trendsetters on campus.  Miami, and the university by proxy had indoctrinated me, further, with the importance of fashion, and looking amazing, put together and fabulous all the time. I thought wearing designer clothing was the only way to appear fashionable even though I never believed that a label on a piece of clothing made it worth it the hundreds of dollars required to wear the exclusive brand. I was just unfashionable.

Every time I see a “news article” commenting on how Michelle Obama or Kate Middleton have repeated an outfit, I want to slap the writer who conceived of the article and punch the editor who let it go to press. Seriously, what is wrong with wearing clothes more than once?  I guess these articles are congratulatory in nature, making “celebrities” seem just like us. Yet, it inadvertently suggests that being seen in the same  dress more than once is odd, or unusual. Why do we buy clothes? To wear only once? That notion has pervaded my shopping decisions on an unconscious level ever since I was old enough to spend my own money.

For the longest, I have bought clothes, shoes, or purses because they were cute. Even if it matched only one other article of clothing that I owned, it wouldn’t stop me. I had to have it.  There was no consideration for repeated wear.  This attitude speaks volumes for the shallowness of our society. Yet for a long time, I was obsessed with this idea. I still don’t want to re-wear an unusual shirt or skirt that I just wore the week before.  I need people to forget the outfit the complimented me on. Thus, I bought clothing that simply wasn’t practical for my style.  I had green and white striped wedges, and uncomfortably high, strappy sandal stilettos. My entire wardrobe was formed with an eclectic collection of “cute” shirts, pants, dresses and shoes.  The object was to have as many articles of clothing as possible. There weren’t any outfits in there.  I never saw the big picture.

By now, you probably think I’m a fashion hater, that I’m bitter.  I promise, I’m not.  I like fashion. I love to look good.  I’ve just figured out that the way I go about fashion: overly-consume-until-I-have-enough-options-to-make-me-look-amazing, simply isn’t working. I hate having all these clothes, but nothing to wear. The concept is absurd really.

I’ve been cleaning out my closet since I moved last August. Yet some how, I’m never in a position where the clothes I have are working for me.  I started cleaning it out again and here’s what I’ve figured out about myself. I fit in that category of people who don’t like to get rid of clothes because 1) I spent good money on it, or getting it tailored; 2) I might want to wear it one day; and 3) I’m going to eventually lose the weight. (Really, truly, I’m almost there!)

My biggest problem, however, was buying cheap clothes from stores like Ross, T.J. Maxx, New York & Company, and Wet Seal (and based on their recent racial discrimination lawsuit, I won’t be shopping there ever again).  While they may be cute, they just wouldn’t last more than a few months.  Lately, I’ve been better about buying clothes that are high quality, but it still hadn’t solved my lack of stylistic coordination problem.  Also, I’ve noticed that it’s harder to find cute, high quality clothing, even from stores like Macy’s and JCPenney.  (On a side note, I wonder if I should shop thrift shops for older, higher quality items… blog post in the future maybe)

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So in my latest spring cleaning efforts, I’ve drummed up all of my minimalist resources for inspiration and encouragement. (see the bottom of the page for more info) I repeatedly refer to the book The Joy of Less by Francine Jay (Click Here for her blog). Last weekend I spent some time on the chapter on wardrobe. Getting rid of the cheap and worn out clothes was relatively easy. Getting rid of stuff that doesn’t fit was harder, but I managed to toss some of it in the donation bag.  Then, there were a whole bunch of clothes that I was planning on keeping, but because of Miss Jay, I actually tried them on and realized I didn’t like them as much as I thought I did. More for the donation bag!

Another issue that The Joy of Less required that I address, is What is my style and color palate? Well, my style is comfortable and cute.  I love a bohemian style– you know, long skirts and maxi dresses. And I love to be comfortable; I could live in a t-shirt or a long flowing shirt and jeans. And as for my color palate, I like bright colors, and black.

The problem with my “style” is mostly when it comes to what I wear to work. American “professional” style operates in complete opposition to what I like to wear.  Slacks, button-down shirts, cardigans, blouses, blazers, suits, etc. are so uncomfortable.  I’ve bought these things because I have to try to look professional in the workplace, yet these things just don’t look chic on me. Typically, it’s in the workplace where I wear a hodge-podge of clothes because I’m trying look professional, cute, and keep warm in the giant refrigerator classrooms. 

But then I got to thinking. Maybe I could assimilate my style into my work wardrobe.  If I flesh out my BASICS for work–get some nice sweaters that I can wear with my long skirts and other clothes, maybe I can make it work.  Because honestly right now, I really don’t have very many high quality, work/teacher-appropriate and warm work clothes.

So far, I’ve pared-down my wardrobe to the clothes I wear.  Jeans that fit, t-shirts I love and still fit. Dresses and skirts that I like to wear.  I’ve kept one suit, even though I didn’t want to, because you never know, and I’m not buying another suit.

While I don’t quite have my closet where I want it, and still have more paring down to do (haven’t even touched my shoes yet), I’ve done my research and found that minimalist fashion comprises of these ten tenants:

  1. Buy high quality basics
  2. Ignore fleeting fashion trends
  3. Follow the one in, one out rule
  4. Stick to a simple color palate
  5. Don’t buy because you love it; buy because it’s useful, enduring and you love it
  6. Develop your own style
  7. Don’t compare yourself to other people
  8. You waste money when you buy useless crap, not when you get rid of it
  9. It is okay to repeat outfits, most people are too self-absorbed & self-conscious to notice.
  10. Wear clothes that are comfortable and make you feel great

 More Resources:

Stylist and Broke: http://www.bridgetteraes.com/2013/01/09/beingstylishandbroke/

Wardrobe Mentality: http://www.bridgetteraes.com/2013/05/03/wardrobementality/

Wastefulness of Decluttering: http://zenhabits.net/simple-wasteless/

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How Stress Affects the Body

So I recently saw this awesome infographic on the Secrets of the Fed website. I know the site can be a bit provocative, but you really cant argue about this image. Every time I see something about the negative consequences of stress, it reminds me to stay focused.  I’m minimalizing and slowing down for a reason.  I need a clean & calm home environment, a healthy body, and positive attitude. The only thing I can do is be prepared for stressful situations by fortifying  my mind, body and spirit, so I can handle the physical ramifications of stress.

See the infographic below:

Courtesy of SecretsOfTheFed.com  No copyright infringement intended

Courtesy of SecretsOfTheFed.com No copyright infringement intended

On a tangent here… I’ve been reading this book on holistic treatments for pet health. It’s called The Nature of Animal Healing by Martin Goldstein, DVM.  And Goldstein poses the question: why do some people and animals get sick and not others? He says that traditional medicine treats the specific illness, not the reasons why the person go sick in the first place. He suggests that illness happens not just because evil bacteria and viruses invade the body. It happens because the body is ill-equipped to deal with the evil bacteria and viruses that invade on a daily basis.

Following his reasoning, stressors weaken the body and make it susceptible to illness. Still, there will always be stressors.  I will always experience crazy drivers on the highway and annoying people who have to have their way RIGHT NOW. The only way I can deal with all of that is by strengthening my body with healthy foods, making my environment one that is supportive, and managing  my reactions to the stressors.

How to you avoid the physical consequences of stress?

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Making Time to Cook and Eat

If you don’t mind my ramblings, read on:  Right now I’m on a no-chemicals, all-natural foods diet. Actually, I’d really like to make this a permanent thing, but I have to cook everything; it is so time consuming. I’m not complaining, I’ve lost weight and I feel wonderful. Yet, it really got me thinking about how we never really get the opportunity to sit and enjoy preparing and eating our meals, as we do around the holidays. Cooking and eating is just a secondary activity, that on most days I wish I could forgo.

Our society is now designed for fast food culture.  There just isn’t time to really eat and enjoy.  The school where I work schedules 40 minutes for the students and teachers for lunch.  By the time I settle down from my last class and consume my food,  lunch is over. It’s too fast.  When I used to work at part-time in retail, I’d only get 30 minutes for lunch. If I didn’t bring an already prepared meal (that didn’t need to be heated), I would barely have enough time to scarf down my food. What has happened to this country that we don’t respect the lunch hour anymore?

The amount of time we spend at dinner has been truncated as well. When I get home from work, I start cooking by 4:30 or 5:00. If I cook everything from scratch, eat dinner and then clean-up it’s about or 7:30pm or 8:00pm. And this doesn’t include the time it takes to prepare my lunch for the next day. If I want to wake up rested the next morning, I need to be in bed by 9:30pm. Wash, rinse and repeat.  What kind of life is that? When do I get to relax and unwind from the day? It would be infinitely easier to stop a restaurant and pick up food on the way home. Yet, if I did that every day I would be fat and sick.

To complicate my conflict with the status quo,  I have become obsessive, almost, on how my foods are prepared.  Nowadays, I do everything pretty much the old fashioned way.  I wanted to eat healthier and improve my health.  So, I’ve been paying attention to the ingredients in the food I buy, and decided I didn’t want to continue to consume the chemicals in processed foods. I decided to eat more naturally and healthfully.  These changes extend to how I prepare my food as well. I’ve abandoned the microwave after seeing this Facebook meme… If this is true– I actually want to do my own experiment to confirm–we need to rethink how we prepare our food. So as a safety precaution, I’m not microwaving.

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Nonetheless, reheating food on the stove takes longer; as does many of the other old-fashioned cooking techniques. Making your own breads takes a few hours. I’ve recently discovered this gluten-free honey oat-bread that is absolutely amazing (I usually leave out the xanthan gum since I don’t have it). Making this bread takes a while especially if I’m turning instant oats into flour at home. Labor-intensive, from-scratch cooking doesn’t work well for the modern, working woman. However, my health is more important to me than any damn status quo. And quite frankly, homemade foods, once you get used to them of course, taste much better than any processed junk out there.

For instance: Early last week I had microwaved popcorn. I know, I broke my no-microwave and homemade-only cooking principles. Why, though, did I have microwave popcorn? I’m not really sure.  I guess I  was hungry, really bored and freezing (I was in this ice-box for a classroom). Anyway, this popcorn was disgusting. I probably haven’t had microwave popcorn in a few years since I discovered popping it on the stove. I never really liked the filmy residue on microwave popcorn, but for the longest, that was all I knew. For some idiotic reason, I decided, “why not?” It smelled good, so it might be alright. This microwave popcorn was the nastiest, chemical-flavored crap I’d eaten in a long time.  The temptation of food in front of me, overtook my quest for healthy and homemade eating. I hope I learned my lesson.

This brings me to another point.  It’s ironic really, how we as Americans are always eating, munching, snacking, sipping, and tasting, but we don’t take time prepare and eat our foods at home regularly. The object is to get food to our mouths as quickly as possible, and have it constantly available.  Every celebration and social event is marked with something to put in our mouths.  Quite frankly, if we spent less time at office parties, and did snacking throughout the day, we might be able to have time for cooking delicious, homemade meals.

Nonetheless, cooking at home isn’t something that we all know how to do. When I had to stop eating dairy, I couldn’t prepare 85% of what I liked to eat/knew how to cook. And stopping with wheat/gluten brings a whole new set of challenges.  And without pasta-roni and other quick-prepare/processed foods, what then, am I left to cook? I was surprised to find their are many healthy recipes and creative and delicious ways to make foods that I love. I’ve worked past these challenges but I still don’t consider myself a well-seasoned cook.  Nonetheless, I’m much better than I used to be, and  I can finally make rice without it being under-cooked and burned.

Even still, cooking at home is time intensive. Soaking raw beans overnight (instead of buying canned) and then cooking them (don’t even talk to me about re-fried beans) is two day endeavor. And I make a huge mess when I cook, too. I’m getting better at keeping things clean, but when you use the masher, and the blender, and the chopper, and measuring spoons, and 2 or 3 different pans, and plates and forks, and spoons, and God knows what else, its easy for things to get a little out of control….

healthy oatmeal cookies

Here’s the thing with cooking at home: Sometimes your recipe doesn’t exactly work out.  Maybe you forgot an ingredient (btw I made the honey-oat bread without eggs and it still came out really good), got distracted, or maybe the recipe wasn’t that great to begin with.  While I’ve had some successes, gluten-free cooking creates additional challenges in and of itself. It’s a process. (I won’t show you the gluten free tortillas I attempted to make. They looked like (and tasted like

Taking time to prepare your food at home requires patience, hard work, and time.  I think though, I need to spend more time planning my meals so I’m more efficient.  Here are some things I try to do to eat healthy, home-cooked foods as much as possible:

  1. Plan meals for the week- I don’t have to worry about grocery shopping during the week, and saves time in the morning trying to figure out what I’m making breakfast & lunch
  2. Do some cooking a few days in advance or on the weekends- Sometimes I’ll make a mashed chickpea salad, or the oat-honey bread so I’ll have to take it for breakfast or lunch during the week.
  3. Cook a week’s worth of meals on the weekends, and then freeze and re-heat them during the week- I haven’t actually tried this yet, but I can imagine it saving a lot of time. 
  4. Cook simple foods-This is probably the easiest way to eat pure/homemade foods. Honestly, making foods with a three day process, like the gluten-free, refried bean enchilada, isn’t always practical. It takes much less time to boil some rice and add some canned Amy’s Organic curried lentil soup on top of it. It’s my favorite that I buy from Whole Foods.  I actually heated the leftovers up this morning and put it in a thermos for lunch. It tastes good and required minimal effort on my part. Now if I would sit and enjoy my food instead of eating during the period before lunch.
  5. Save the experiments/new recipes for the weekend- That way, if it doesn’t come out right, or you want to try again, you won’t be pressed for time. On a weeknight, if your elaborate new recipe is completely inedible (like those tortillas I made), you will be short on time and a hungry raging maniac, and more incline to just eat “whatever.”
  6. Make cooking healthy meals a priority-  If you spend 3 hours watching TV or browsing Facebook after work, you wont have time to cook.  You have to make a deliberate effort to add cooking to your day if you don’t do it already. Sure, it may feel like you are taking time away from other, more exciting activities. But just like an exercise routine, you have put it at the top of the list.
  7. Stop trying to be the perfect healthy eater- The reality is, sometimes it isn’t practical to make everything. I seriously may never make gluten-free tortillas again. You are going to make mistakes, and eat things you shouldn’t, and not feel like cooking. But that’s the reality of life.  Do the best you can.

Other than making these small adjustments, the only way to truly take time to eat is to work for yourself. That way, you set your own schedule. You can set two hours in the middle of the afternoon to prepare lunch if you’d like.  I think, that every meal, or at least most, should be like the Thanksgiving Dinner meal.  Families should come together at meal time, and all help to put together the meal of the evening. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but if we were to all work on one part, a complicated meal might not take so much time.

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What Makes You Feel Amazing?

I feel amazing when I eat healthily.  As a ploy to get my boyfriend to change his diet, I decided to change my own. As I’ve been mentioning lately, I’ve started this gluten-free, wheat-free, soy-free, diary-free, refined sugar-free, (already) vegetarian diet. My aim is to avoid nearly all processed foods that have ingredients that I don’t know what they are. Essentially all food that isn’t cooked at home has been banished from my diet.

And as challenging as that may be, I feel amazing. I’ve lost weight, I have more energy, and I recover from illness with lightning speed. Who knew that eating all natural, organic foods could make me feel so great? However, since the week before my vacation, I’ve been a little lax with my diet. I’ve been eating processed foods, wheat bread, and pastries; those foods have made me feel so bad.  I’ve never been so aware of how food makes my body feel.

When they say food is fuel, who ever “they” is, they weren’t kidding. Once you have REAL food for a while, its kind of hard to go back to the processed junk.  I mean, it’s not hard at all, as processed junk is readily available to jump down your throat at a moment’s notice. People are always throwing it at you. Last Friday  a kid offered me a chocolate cupcake, for free! Yet, when I look at the processed food, (today I made a naan pizza with sliced tomatoes and Daiya cheese), it doesn’t seem as appetizing as before. The flavor isn’t rich and fresh, and I don’t feel like I’m doing myself any favors.

My mom always says “Bless your food.”  She tells me to “not give power to the things of this world,” like food.  I believe her, but the facts don’t lie. I feel amazing when I eat natural foods that I prepare at home. I LIKE eating healthier. It’s strange, but I never thought I’d say that. And guess what? I don’t have to eat zucchini or mushrooms, either.  I eat all the stuff I love. Nit-picking chemical micro-ingredients, criticizing them, and avoiding them may seem like I’m giving “power” to those ingredients, but I’m not if I don’t focus on them. There are two ways to eat in this lifestyle. The first, is to think about all the foods you can’t have because these micro-ingredients are going to give you cancer or whatever.  The second is to think of all the possibilities that are available to you with the food you can eat. Cauliflower sauce instead of Alfredo, who knew? I’m still working on a recipe, but as soon as I develop one I like, I’ll share it with you.  There are so many foods I haven’t tried, and so many ideas I have coming to me

Of course this “restrictive” diet has many challenges and I slip up sometimes. Yet, my slip-ups give me something to remember: I don’t like the way the processed stuff makes me feel. So I work on sticking to the diet. The next step in this new dietary lifestyle is to adapt my schedule to fit the requirements of preparing these amazing foods. And this next step, my friends, is for next time.  Have a good night.

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How Do I Get A Positive Attitude?

I recently took a staycation-vacation up in Hollywood Beach, Florida with my aunt.  During my vacation, I had an epiphany. I am so negative.  I never really thought I was.  I thought my outlook was pessimistic, but nothing to get up in arms about.

hollywood beach view from window

Yet, here I was, in Hollywood, Florida, staring out the window overlooking the ocean, and in my head, I was complaining about something.  I have this beautiful view, and all I could think about is what is wrong with the world/my life/people/etc.

People have called me negative before, but I never really saw it that way. I considered myself a realist. You know, if my professor typically rejects my first ideas in my paper, why would he just accept this one particular idea on this one particular day.  I always prayed for the best, but expected the worst.  It lessens the blow when a disappointing outcome does occur.

Still, when I consider my little amazing-view-but-bad-attitude scenario, I wonder, what’s up with that? I mean, maybe that’s what people mean when they say I’m negative.  That I’m so consumed with these other thoughts that I cant enjoy the moment.  Sometimes,  I do enjoy the moment, but it just hasn’t been happening on the trip.

hollywood beach

Don’t get my wrong, I am thankful for this trip, and I needed it badly.  But it took a while for me to relax into it.  Maybe it’s because I carry too much of the past around with me.  I drag my outside life with me to a place where I’m supposed to relax and enjoy life.

hollywood beach trees

I decided that I’m going to start meditating. Maybe more yoga too, but mostly meditating. That way I can deliberately focus on being in the moment and clearing my mind of any negative thoughts that float around.

 

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Meeting the Crossroads

I’m at a crossroads.  I’m starting to feel like I don’t have any control over things in my life, and how I react will determine how my life moves forward.

I took my dog to the vet, waited an hour and ten minutes in the exam room for the assistant to look her over really quickly, and tell me she probably has an ear infection. Then, I waited another 20 for the doctor, who didn’t bother to feign an apology for taking unreasonably long.  Actually, I was about to walk out the door when he showed up, told him so, and he didn’t seem to be interested. Quite frankly, I found him pretentious and rude. He told me I should have expected such a long wait.  I love how they make you wait for hours, spend a total of 10 minutes with you and your pet, and manage to charge you 90 dollars.  No one bothered to tell me the price of things, or what procedures they recommended. I am reeling. I am shaking.  I am so angry.

Both myself, my boyfriend and my dog have been getting sick. I feel like this is saying something. Something bigger than just life and allergies. My mom says when you neglect your spiritual health it starts to affect your body.  The way things have been going, I can believe that. I’ve really been trying my best, you know, to live the slow life. I’ve been taking it easy in traffic and trying not to overwhelm myself when the world goes awry. (Did I mention that last night was a full a full moon? I always feel a weird vibe in the air when there is a full moon.)

I feel like I’m at a crossroads where I can freak-out and lose my cool, or put on my big girl pants and move forward.  Right now, I don’t know how to move forward. I want to scream and cry and pout and curl  into a ball.  My puppy is sick and I don’t know how to make it  better holistically (yet). I went to the eye doctor for trouble seeing at night, and they said a stronger prescription wouldn’t help me… but that doesn’t change the fact that my vision is still blurry. I’m still waiting to find out if my thesis will be approved.  I don’t know how to fix these things, because everything seems to be in flux. It is so frustrating.

I have to renew my faith, and focus on things bigger than myself. If I sit here and focus on these problems where I have no control I’m going to lose it.  I’m going back to the drawing board.

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Eating off the Infinite Table: Consuming without Being Consumed

Reblogged from Annamal house.:

 

Every week, AT&T and Comcast conduct a direct-mail duel to see who can offer me the most channels of digital TV. I believe we are up to about 900 now. Then there's Netflix, with more films and TV shows than I could watch in a lifetime. Even if I limited myself to just those that close friends have recommended, I would have years worth of material.

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This article is very insightful. Enjoy :)
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Extreme Couponing for Minimalists

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Have you ever seen the show Extreme Couponing on TLC?  If you haven’t, women buy tons of items, in bulk, using hundreds of store and manufacturer’s coupons, store discount cards, and any savings program that is available to shoppers. It’s a lot of work, but sometimes they get nearly 99% off of the retail price.  I’d seen the show before, but this time it left a serious impression on me. Why wasn’t I doing this? I guess part of my excuse for not couponing is that stores in Florida don’t double coupons so I can’t get the types of savings they get.  After spending part of my spring break watching the show, I couldn’t help but feel like I was leaving money on the table.   I swear I heard a woman say she saves 60 thousand dollars a year by couponing– and many of the women said they earn a salary’s worth by couponing for their families. Why am I paying for all of the stuff they get at a steep discount, free, or for a small profit?

I’m on a very tight budget because I won’t have substitute teaching work in the summer.  So, extreme couponing has become extraordinarily attractive to me. Every dollar that I can save today, is another dollar I’ll have at my disposal this summer. And besides, saving is addictive: I made my first real couponing trip to Winn-Dixie on Tuesday saved over 50% off the retail price of household items. (Maybe that’s not extreme, but it’s pretty darn good.)

Here is my concern with extreme couponing: buying in bulk and creating the “The Stockpile.”  Women on the show devote entire rooms, basements, and garages filled with all of the stuff they’ve bought.  They have a convenience store in their own homes. I don’t have any room for a stockpile. I live in a tiny apartment with enough stuff as it is.

I had to set up some extreme couponing rules so saving money can fit my aspiring minimalist, slow-paced, and healthier lifestyle:

  1. I’m not going to buy unhealthy food.  The women on the show have crates of junk food sitting under their noses to satisfy every craving.  I don’t want that temptation. I’m changing the way I eat: I’m aiming to consume less processed foods and more fruits & vegetables; and one day I’d like to be 100% organic. Yes, this may make extreme couponing more challenging, but any savings is good savings.
  2. I’m also not going to buy something I can’t use, even if I can get it for free. That’s just consumption for the sake of it. Unnecessary!
  3.  I won’t buy anything in extreme excess.  I’m not going to buy 50 containers of deodorant, 27 bottles of dish soap or 100 razors . I will never be able to use that much. Maybe one day when I have a family and the space to store items that we can use, I’ll buy more. For now, I’m not getting excess junk. With my last haul I ended up with 4 bottles of laundry detergent, 6 boxes of tissues, 2 bottles of olive oil and it still feels like too much. I’m going to stick to having two sets of coupons (from two newspapers), so I can maximize the Buy One Get One Free Deals (BOGO).
  4. I’ll try to buy items at a 50% discount, but it’s okay if I don’t.  I don’t know if I’ll ever get items for free, or at a profit. It would be wonderful, but I don’t want to spend 40 hours a week couponing like a crazy person. I want to live life.  I feel that the fifty percent rate is attainable, and reasonable.  BOGO deals are the easiest to find and combine coupons with, and still yield great deals.Newspaper
  5. I’ll take the coupons but give the newspapers away for free. A long time ago, I tried couponing, but I always felt I was being so wasteful with the newspapers. I don’t read anything but the comics, and recycle/throw away the rest.   From this moment on, I’ll take the inserts, and let the cashier give the newspaper away to people who just want to read it. Why not share the love?
  6. If I begin to have more stuff than space, I will start giving things away for free.  What’s the point of saving ridiculous amounts of money if I can’t benefit my community in some way. If I have more than enough, I should share it.

What I have realized is that couponing may not be that great for an organic, vegetarian, soy-free, wheat-free, dairy-free dieter, but it’s great for buying toiletries and household cleaning supplies. I can use the money I save on these items to buy my healthy food.

Resources

Confessions of an Ex-Extreme Couponer

Extreme Coupon Tips for Normal People

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Completing The Proverbial To Do List

Ball and ChainWe all have them. You know, that list of things to do that you’ve been tallying up in your head for weeks, months even. I’m not talking about the things on your daily to do list, like taking the dog out or washing the dishes. I’m talking about those items that are relatively low in priority on the daily to do list, but fairly high on the life improvement to do list.

I thought I’d remedy my to do list problem when I started this blog (about a year ago) by limiting myself to five major life improvement tasks per month. I was feeling overwhelmed with all of my commitments, and I needed to clear my head of obligations.  Getting down to only five major tasks relieved my stress at the time, but now, working on five life goals at a time doesn’t suit me anymore.  Five is too many to work on at a time, and since last year, my goals have grown and changed.

This is the current to-do list that is floating around in my head:

  1. Train the dog
  2. Spring cleaning sale
  3. Get back into an exercise program
  4. Study for (and take) the teacher exam
  5. Blogging for my other blog
  6. Work on my novel
  7. Finish my new website
  8. Find freelance writing gigs
  9. Post-defense thesis revisions (I haven’t defended yet and my adviser still isn’t satisfied with what I’ve got; she gave me suggestions to start incorporating into my piece)
  10. Find and apply for summer jobs

This list doesn’t include all of the stuff that I already do on a regular basis.  Every time I think of something else I need to do, it’s like I add a new ball-and-chain that I have to drag around with me.

I figured out that five was too many to tackle at one time when it got down to the wire with my Master’s thesis. In order to get that done, I had to forgo pretty much any other goals I wanted to complete. I had to be singularly focused.  (While I had no other choice if I want my MA), I got the thesis done, to my liking, within the allotted time frame.  Although I still have more work to do, it’s fairly limited and isn’t hanging over my head the way it has been for the past year.

When some people are extremely passionate about one life goal, they get into intense focus mode. They eat, live, and breathe that goal. They carry on with their usual everyday tasks, and put the rest of their energy into achieving that goal. Everything they see in front of them is just a stepping stone to that goal, whether it is relevant to the goal or not.

My friends, I am not one of those people.  I’ve always wished I could be passionate, dedicated, and singularly focused. But I am a dreamer, planner and a flake. I have many dreams, and I make all the plans in the world to accomplish those dreams. Yet on most days, I flake out on my plans. I flake out on my to do list and opt for internet, TV, relaxing, or lying around the house.  I read this interesting article called The Complete Flakes Guide to Getting Things Done. And it’s been helping me, so maybe it could help you too.

Nonetheless, I’d like to impart what I’ve learned from that article and from my experiences to you all.

Work on one thing from your list at a time. Like a said before, I had to focus exclusively on my thesis to get it done. Anyone that’s done a Master’s Thesis or a Doctoral dissertation knows that most everything in your life gets neglected when you are trying to finish up your degree. Don’t think about your other goals while you are completing that one goal. If you do, you’ll get distracted and procrastinate. Use laser like focus to zero in on that one goal and make it a daily priority. Work on it EVERY DAY, in EVERY SPARE MOMENT. Before you know it, you will have reached your goal and can move on to the next one. If you want life to be easier and less stressful, work on one thing at a time.

Treat every task on the list as if it were major goal. What if one of your goals is something you should be doing every day, but you aren’t  Sometimes our goals aren’t specific achievements marked with a certificate,   but habits we’d like to develop, like meditating, working out, writing every day, learning a language or working on our craft, etc. To prevent getting overwhelmed and stressed out, focus on this habit exclusively, as if it were any other life improvement goal. Don’t try to start working out, for example, if it isn’t already a habit, while you work on another goal. Starting an exercise routine is just as challenging as doing a thesis or looking for a new job. Challenging yourself to start a new habit is difficult– I’m sure you’ve heard: it takes 21 to 66 days to start or break a habit. It could be three months before you can work out consistently, without making excuses. Don’t short change yourself the time you need to get a new habit started. If you do, you are setting yourself up for failure.  And once you’ve reached your goal of making that task a habit (like exercising), then add another.

Make your reward for reaching your goal, unrelated to that goal. For example, I’m trying to work out more. My reward isn’t “weight loss” or “better health,” even though I’ll earn those things by exercising. My reward has nothing to do with my weight; it’s not a new pair of smaller sized clothing (that I have to lose weight to wear). My reward for working out is a new guitar.  All I have to do is exercise 80% of the days from March 1st until May 1st, and I get my guitar.

Do your best to keep up with other daily tasks. This was by far the most difficult for me while working on my thesis. It will help you from drowning in laundry and dirty dishes. Also, you won’t have those little tasks hanging over your head in addition to your main task.

Prioritize your life-improvement to-do list. Training my dog shouldn’t be as high up on the list as finding summer employment. She’s not destroying anything; my little pup is defying me and it’s just annoying. But I  will survive without training her right now. I must put my to-do list in order and work on the time sensitive items first. You would do that with any other to do list. Do the same with your life improvement tasks/goals.

And most importantly, think about one task at a time. Yes, I need to I need to find a summer job, my dog needs training badly, and I’m paying for a personal website that isn’t even up right now. But if I think about all of these things while I’m trying to make those final changes on my thesis, nothing is going to get done.  It’s just the way it goes. I tend to waste a lot of energy thinking about what I should be doing, instead of just doing it.  Giving myself permission to be single-minded assuages the guilt I have about not working on the other tasks. Is it really going to hurt me if I don’t exercise for one more month, if I haven’t consistently for a year? Probably not. If I’m thinking about it and feeling guilty, then I’m wasting time and energy I could be directing towards the goal I should be working towards.

I love the lyrics to this song, they’re inspiring and relevent so I thought I’d include the video in the post.

Jordin Sparks, One Step At A Time

Categories: Reducing Stress, Slowing Down

North Korea Exposes the Western Propaganda

This video is about an hour and a half. I watched it last weekend wanted to share it with you all because it made me think how we, as Americans, consume continuously. Watch it when you have time some time to sit down and really pay attention.

I know I haven’t blogged about time management and stress reduction in a while. I would still like to emphasize that we must become less enmeshed in our materialistic, consumer-oriented, business-centric culture if we want our stress levels to drop. If we are spending less, we can work less. If we desire less “things,” we can live a more fulfilled life. We can be attentive to the small moments that make life interesting and rewarding.

Now, about the video: If you are not open minded, don’t watch it. It will challenge many ideas and beliefs that you have held your entire life. I know that the United States and North Korea are currently having a disagreement (I’m putting it mildly), and the documentary delves into some older political issues. Nonetheless, the video makes some thought-provoking points on how Western propaganda drives consumerism. Enjoy!

Categories: Cutting Costs, Materialistic Lifestyle

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